Dealing with Unwanted Advice During Fertility Treatment

Why Do People Give Advice?

Most of the time, when people offer advice, it comes from a place of care. They genuinely want to help because  they think their experience or knowledge can make your journey easier. The problem is that fertility treatment is a  very personal experience, and what worked for someone else might not be what works for you. (Source: Blooming  With Care)  

It’s easy to get frustrated when you’re in the thick of treatment and people offer advice that doesn’t seem relevant  or helpful. But remind yourself: their advice doesn’t reflect your experience. They don’t know exactly what you’re  going through. Only you and your medical team do. 

Setting Boundaries: It's Okay to Say No

Setting boundaries is key, but it’s not always easy. At first, it might feel awkward to shut down advice, especially  when it's coming from someone you care about. However, it’s your journey, and you have the right to protect it. 

A simple, direct response like “I’m following my doctor’s recommendations right now, thanks for understanding”  can make it clear that you appreciate their concern without inviting more input. 

If someone persists, try steering the conversation in another direction. Something like, “I appreciate your thoughts,  but right now I just want to stay focused. How’s everything with you?” This keeps things polite, but it also keeps  the focus on what matters to you. (Source: Orama Wellness)  

Surround Yourself with Supportive People

When you’re going through something as intense as fertility treatment, it’s crucial to have people around you who  get it. Whether that’s close friends, family members, or others who have been through similar experiences, a  supportive group can make all the difference. 

It’s also important to let your support system know exactly how they can help. Some people might need to be good  listeners, while others might want to step in and offer practical help. Whatever it is, it’s okay to ask for what you  need. (Source: Fertility.com)  

Stay Focused on Your Own Journey

While advice from others is inevitable, it’s your journey that matters most. Trust yourself and your medical team— they guide you through the process and have your best interests at heart. Don’t let outside opinions sway you from  your path. 

And most importantly, take care of yourself. This is a challenging time, and finding moments to relax and recharge  is important. Whether it’s a quiet walk, a hobby you love, or just spending time with people who lift you up, these  moments of self-care can help you stay grounded. 

Sources:  

Blooming With Care - Bloomingwithcare.com/infertility/2020/11/1/dealing-with-unsolicited-advice 

Orama Wellness - Oramawellness.com/blog/how-to-set-boundaries-with-others-when-youre-going-through fertility-treatment 

Fertility.com - Fertility.com/en/resources/articles/why-support-matters.html