Supporting a Loved One Through IVF
Just Be There
One of the simplest yet most powerful things you can do is be there. Sometimes, people going through IVF need someone to listen, not offer solutions. If they’re feeling overwhelmed or frustrated, let them talk it out without interrupting or offering advice. Be a safe space where they can express their feelings, whether it’s excitement, fear, or even doubt.
Respect Their Boundaries
Everyone handles IVF differently. Some people want to share every detail, while others may prefer to keep things private. It’s important to respect their boundaries. Don't push them if they choose not to talk about certain aspects of the process. Let them open up when they’re ready. (Source: Elanza Wellness)
And remember, IVF affects both partners. While the woman might be the one going through most of the physical treatment, the emotional toll on her partner can be just as significant. Sometimes, they also may need support. Even if they don’t always express it.
Celebrate the Little Wins
The road to a successful IVF outcome can be long and full of setbacks. So, celebrate small victories, whether it’s a positive test result, a successful egg retrieval, or just making it through a tough week. Whether you send a simple message of encouragement or offer a special treat to mark the occasion, these small gestures show you care and keep spirits up. (Source: BUPA)
If things don’t go as planned, it’s just as important to be there in those moments too. IVF doesn’t always work the way we hope, and your loved one may need extra comfort and reassurance. Sometimes it’s simply about letting them know that you’re there for them no matter what.
Be Informed, But Don’t Overwhelm
It can help to learn about the IVF process but don’t turn into an expert overnight. Knowing what your loved one is going through helps you offer the right support. But it’s important not to overwhelm them with information unless they ask for it. If they want to talk about the medical details, listen. But don’t feel the need to give advice unless they specifically ask.
The most important thing you can do is offer your presence and compassion. Let them guide the conversation, and be patient when they need time or space to process what’s happening.
Your Support Is Vital
IVF can be an incredibly challenging journey, impacting physically, emotionally, and mentally. But your support can make a real difference in whatever form it takes. Whether it’s a listening ear, a kind word, or just a shoulder to lean on, being there for someone going through IVF shows them they’re not alone. It might not always feel like there’s much you can do, but simply being present and supportive means more than you might realize.
Sources:
Independent - Independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/ivf-amit-shah-one-nhs-harley-street.html Elanza Wellness - Elanzawellness.com/post/5-ways-to-support-someone-going-through-ivf BUPA - BUPA/healthlink/family-pregnancy/getting-pregnant/what-to-say-and-not-to-say-to-a-friend-doing-ivf
